Why won’t my Gemini man ask me to Marry him? 5 Reasons Why Explained
Finding, and keeping, a Gemini man can be twice as challenging as any other sign as Gemini men are more likely to have conflicting aspects of their personalities. If you look to a horoscope for Gemini love tips, you’ll often find words such as “confusing,” “challenging,” and “elusive.” However, you’ll also read about how rewarding a relationship with a Gemini man can be if you find the right one.
Now that you’ve fallen in love with both aspects of his personality, and both aspects of your Gemini’s personality have fallen in love with you, it’s natural to feel it’s time to move on to your next step. Specifically, you may feel like it is time he proposed to you. As the days pass, you may grow more and more frustrated by the lack of an engagement ring. What could the problem be?
Why won’t your Gemini man propose?
Every situation is different, and there are no universal answers. However, some things are common when dealing with Gemini men and commitment. Here are 5 guidelines that may help you to figure out what is going on.
The two of you are not working on the same timelines.
For you, it’s the right time of your life to settle down with a mate and make a home. For him, there is still a lot of time to do that later but, for now, Mr. Gemini wants to concentrate on other things. He may be working to establish himself in his career, to finish school or any number of other things.
For the most part, there are few things that one can do while in a serious and committed dating relationship that one cannot do while married. However, his hesitation may not be completely practical or well-thought-out. He may see marriage as marking the end of this phase of his life and beginning the next, and he may not be ready to do that right now.
You have incompatible life goals.
Sometimes, the relationship that is perfect right now won’t be forever. If, for example, one of you wants a large family and the other doesn’t, then no matter how much you love one another you might not be happy with one another in the long-term. Your Gemini may recognize this and so he’s not proposing; at the same time, he loves you and does not want your relationship to end.
The good news is that if he knows that, you probably do, too. Are there certain topics you avoid talking about because the conversation becomes awkward as you realize, again, that you do not want the same things? Are you hoping that something, somehow, will change to make this better? If so, then that could be an obstacle to a long and happy marriage.
If you know that you two love one another but know that you won’t be successful in the long-term, then it is best to face the situation head-on and decide what to do. It may be a painful conversation, but you’ll both be better off.
He knows that one of you has sexual needs that are not being met.
This can be a difficult situation. Mr. Gemini loves you, you love him, and you actually have a great sex life. Still, there is a key element missing for one of you. This could happen for any number of reasons. You may have different interests from one another, one of you may have a fetish that the other cannot or will not fulfill, or one of you may be bisexual. Either way, your Gemini may be worried that one or both of you can’t be truly happy if you are to spend the rest of your lives having sex only with one another. Since monogamous marriage is the predominant model in our culture, and it precludes having any of our sexual needs filled by anyone outside our marriage, this can be a difficult situation.
This may be as large a deal-breaker as the above example of one of you want to have children while the other does not, but it may not have to be. The two of you may find a way to deal with the issue that makes you both happy. While monogamous marriage is the most common and accepted relationship choice in our culture, it is not the only one and there may be another model that will better serve the needs of your Gemini and you. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what your relationship looks like, so long are you’re both getting your needs met and can be happy and healthy.
He believes that combining your finances isn’t a good idea.
For one reason or another, he feels that combining your finances is a bad idea. Maybe he has a lot of debt that he doesn’t want you tied to, or one of you is negotiating a bankruptcy or other legal situation. Your Gemini may or may not be right, depending on how informed his decision has been. If you’re not sure, a good financial planner may be able to help you figure out the potential financial consequences of marrying.
You don’t get along with his children, or he with yours.
If one or both of you have children from a previous relationship then it’s important that those kids are just as loved as the adults are in that situation. If there is a lot of friction between the children and the step-parent-to-be, then he may be unwilling to go into a situation where he worries everyone will be unhappy.
These are common reasons why your Gemini man may not propose to you. It is important to remember that this list is by no means exhaustive. Ultimately, the only way to resolve this situation is going to be by communicating your needs and desires to one another so that you can build a future that is good for both of you. If you’re nervous about how to approach your Gemini without pushing him away, there are many secret techniques that have been proven to work. These methods allow your Gemini to build trust and a deeper emotional connection with you much faster, taking all the guesswork out of dating. If you’re sure you want your Gemini man to commit to you, and you’re sick and tired of excuses, or just waiting for him to make the next move start your journey here. You’ll be able to watch your man transform into the trustworthy, mature, and responsible partner you’ve always known he could be. Don’t wait for him to come around, learn how to help him be his best today.