The Role of the Mother in Jewish Culture


If you read the ancient biblical text: Proverbs 31:10-31, you will read about a woman with a noble character. In the Jewish culture, a woman with these qualities is praised beyond measure and also described as very difficult to find. Solomon wrote this proverb thousands of years ago, and to this day many men search for a woman with these hardworking and selfless traits. Even though this is a Jewish proverb, Americans and many other nations who have a religious background search for these nobilities as well.

A Woman with a Noble Character

The epilogue starts off reading, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark and provides food for her family, and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” After reading the first six verses of this proverb the possibility of finding a woman like this is a slight 2% chance. To make it easy reading for the ladies, I didn’t write the other twenty-five verses lol.

My wife is Jewish, and she has maybe 50% of these qualities. She is very hardworking, but she hates to get her hands dirty so planting in the vineyards would count her out. The truth of the matter is that in Jewish culture, the men are looking for a woman with a quiet spirit; one who respects tradition, and doesn’t follow the worldliness of society. The famous line from Solomon was: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the LORD should be praised.” Is this something that was said to keep woman powerless…hmm? Nowadays a women’s opinion is far more valuable than a man’s. For example, Ellen De’ Generes is fighting against gay rights, and California is considering legalization…hmm, the woman isn’t as quiet anymore.

The Change in Society, Changes Mothering Roles

So now that the mothering roles have changed, because society has changed, and no longer do women have this “servant-hood” mentality. Women want to be respected, and equal to men. They want to make seven figures and run their own business without a man’s approval. This is all possible, and I think it helps the world substantially that women are able to express their ideas and creativity’s to society, but my question is, will the motherhood diminish? I believe that there will always be an old school woman who believes a man should be the head of the household and that a man and woman should get married and raise a family together. On the other hand, if many women rebel against these traditions, and legalize gay marriages, then the children’s reproduction will not be active, and we will eventually die off.

Women Independence

Now we see why the Jewish men hold so strongly to these characteristics that seem to be lost and forgotten. They may have foreseen the corruption in the future and thought that by teaching the woman to be submissive and take care of the home, that this would keep things in order. They thought that once a woman tasted independence the world would be at stake, and the men would become weak. This could be a possible judgment stating the fact that Adam was silly enough to follow Eve when she ate the fruit of good and evil. Hmm…it’s all making sense now, the men are becoming so weak, that the transsexual and homosexual population is rising to 65%. Even if men appear to be straight, I’m sure they have experienced some kind of homosexual fantasy or encounter.

As I close, I want to encourage all women, including my wife; to hold your head up high with strength and dignity, teach your children wisdom and love, and most importantly don’t become victims to society and reality TV. You don’t have to be rebellious to move mountains, and you definitely don’t have to be a nun to be spiritual. You can be a combination of all; being independent, beautiful, and showing humility, because you are WOMAN…and you are precious!

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